Pick Up and Attraction

We’ve gotten some questions recently about whether or not there will be a sequel to VH1’s Pick Up Artist reality show. Unfortunately, after scouring the web, we really don’t have an answer. That could be sign that they’re keeping any information about the second season of “The Pick Up Artist” completely under wraps… Or, it could mean that another season simply isn’t happening.

There’s a small bit of speculation out there that they may focus on Kosmo (winner of the first season) as he travels around with Mystery, Matador, and J-Dawg. However, that seems highly unlikely to us, especially given the information out there implying that Kosmo may be an actor. Here at Pickup and Attraction, we’re thinking that if “The Pick Up Artist - Season 2″ does happen, it’s likely going to mimic the first with different AFC contestants and perhaps some different challenges. We’ll just have to wait and see.

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We came across an interesting post recently that suggests that Kosmo (Alvaro Orlando) from VH1’s Pick Up Artist may have actually been an actor. The post includes a link to Kosmo’s acting profile which has a demo reel of some of his performances. Additionally, Orlando has his own official site online at http://www.alvaroorlando.com.

While it is certainly interesting, we have to say that we’re not shocked to see that a contestant on a reality show has an acting background, The Pick Up Artist included. Our guess is that the majority of the people who try out to most reality shows are going to be starving actors and actresses trying to get some screen time. However, with that said, the post from Seduction-Chronicles.net does show an interesting side of Kosmo and does not bode well for a potential Pick Up Artist sequel with him included in it, as a few have speculated.

Tell me if this is you… You’ve started working up the courage to talk to women out at the bars, but there’s a problem: You’re not getting anywhere. Maybe she shuts you down right after your opener, maybe she bails out 5 minutes into the conversation, or maybe she sticks around just long enough to give you a fake number. In any case, you’re facing female rejection. What steps do you take to move past this?

The first is simply realizing that this happens to all guys, and moreover, that this rejection is nothing personal. You may be thinking, “But I’m a great guy. I’m smart, kind, easy going, I have a great job, and so on. She doesn’t know what she is missing.” Guess what? You’re right, she doesn’t know what she’s missing! All she knows is whether the initial 2 - 3 minutes of conversation that you gave her were intriguing or not. Were you exciting? Did you have high energy? Were your able to successfully pique her interest? Did you challenge her? Did you make her laugh? Did you talk about something completely unique? In other words, did you present yourself as a social and interesting guy who is different from the rest of the AFCs in the bar? If you didn’t, your chances of rejection are high. But remember, she’s not rejecting you — she’s simply rejecting your approach. Do not take this personally. Forget about it and move on.

Step two is fixing the problem. You must identify what you’re doing wrong, and change it. This is going to take lots of reading, and lots of practice. No, there are no “magic bullets.” And yes, you’re going to have to face many more rejections as you master your art. We’ll be covering a ton of in depth material on this in future posts, but for now, we’re going to run down some quick tips that can quickly improve your success rate.

• Smile!
• Keep your head up (physically!.. and mentally too).
• Don’t hesitate when you see a target.
• Bring a high level of energy into the interaction.
• Be confident.
• Make eye contact.
• Remember that you need to do most of the talking. Initially, up to 90%.
• Don’t ask the same lame questions as every other guy.
  • “What’s your name?”
  • “Do you come here often?”
  • “Do you live around here?”
  • “What do you do for a living?”
  • And never ever, “Can I buy you a drink?”
• Tell an interesting story, or get her opinion on something. Don’t be afraid to make it slightly edgy or sexual.
• Set a false time constraint so that you appear to be in high demand.
• Challenge her. Make her work for your interest.

Below is a brief rundown of some casual locations for meeting women and developing your pickup game. These are fairly common and accessible places that most guys will have access to. Some may mesh with your style, and some may not. Try as many as you can and see what works for you. And remember, stay relaxed and be social when you’re out sarging. Rather than making it your goal to close on women, make it your goal to have fun, socialize, and be confident — numbers (or more) will likely result.

Meeting Women at the Bookstore

The bookstore is one of the more common locations to practice your day game. There’s generally a decent amount of women in a good-sized bookstore, most of whom are not in a rush and open to conversation — both of which are advantages for you. Openers based on what you, or she, is looking at can easily be successful.

Meeting Women at the Supermarket

The supermarket has a lot of potential as a location for picking up women. While it may be a bit more difficult to find the type of girls you’re looking to approach, there are lots of methods available for opening, from opinion openers to negging her about something in her shopping cart. It’s also fairly easy to DHV yourself with food or cooking related stories.

Meeting Women at Shopping Malls

Similar to bookstores and supermarkets, malls present you with a single location full of women. The same things apply here.

Meeting Women at Coffee Shops

Coffee shops are another common location for working your day game. Openers may be a bit less obvious than then places listed above, but with a starbucks on every block, you have plenty of locations to figure out what works. Remember to keep good posture if you’re sitting down.

Meeting Women at a Park

Parks in the summer time are often full of women — women who are relaxed and staying in one place. Use this to your advantage. Although it may seem cliché, having a dog with you can create additional opportunities.

Meeting Women at Dinners & Eateries

While not always an ideal location, you can certainly open sets of women at casual eateries. Specifically, dinners and burger/pizza joint can present social, and easily sargable, locations at the end of the night as the bar scene is coming to a close.

Meeting Women at the Gym

The gym can be a bit tricky. While it’s often a great location to find good looking women, many of them are self-conscious when working out, or simply want to be left alone. You may have to pay closer attention to womens’ body language at the gym, but regardless, it’s still a place that you should consider for sarging.

Meeting Women on the Subway

For anyone living in a major city, the subway can be a common means of transportation. Again, it’s not always an idea location, but an be a location full of static women. If you ride on a daily basis you should have plenty of opportunities. Opinion openers related to current events can serve as an easy means to open sets.

Sources

• Where To Pick Up Women - Great Places To Meet More Women, Alex Coulson

Cat string theory is one of the most fundamental concepts involved in attracting women. It’s based upon a simple and predictable behavior, and should always (always!) be in the back of your mind — specifically when you are out sarging.

The theory goes like this… If you place a thread of yarn in front of a cat, and just let it sit there, the cat may take a few swipes at it, but will quickly lose interest. However, if you were to take that thread and instead dangle it in front of the cat, just out of reach, that same cat will chase it endless around the room. This same principle applies to humans, in various aspects, but specifically in respect to women chasing men. Below is a great video where Mystery and Matador touch on this subject (first 3 minutes or so). Don’t mind the lisps…

So the moral is that you can be a grade A guy, but if you immediately make yourself available to a woman, it’s likely that she’ll quickly lose interest. Women want to be challenged. By keeping yourself slightly (but not too far) out of reach your value will go up, her attraction to you will build — and like the cat with the yarn, she will chase you.

Additional Information on Cat String Theory

• Cat String Theory @ Attractology
• Cat String Theory @ Art of Seduction