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Below is a brief rundown of some casual locations for meeting women and developing your pickup game. These are fairly common and accessible places that most guys will have access to. Some may mesh with your style, and some may not. Try as many as you can and see what works for you. And remember, stay relaxed and be social when you’re out sarging. Rather than making it your goal to close on women, make it your goal to have fun, socialize, and be confident — numbers (or more) will likely result.

Meeting Women at the Bookstore

The bookstore is one of the more common locations to practice your day game. There’s generally a decent amount of women in a good-sized bookstore, most of whom are not in a rush and open to conversation — both of which are advantages for you. Openers based on what you, or she, is looking at can easily be successful.

Meeting Women at the Supermarket

The supermarket has a lot of potential as a location for picking up women. While it may be a bit more difficult to find the type of girls you’re looking to approach, there are lots of methods available for opening, from opinion openers to negging her about something in her shopping cart. It’s also fairly easy to DHV yourself with food or cooking related stories.

Meeting Women at Shopping Malls

Similar to bookstores and supermarkets, malls present you with a single location full of women. The same things apply here.

Meeting Women at Coffee Shops

Coffee shops are another common location for working your day game. Openers may be a bit less obvious than then places listed above, but with a starbucks on every block, you have plenty of locations to figure out what works. Remember to keep good posture if you’re sitting down.

Meeting Women at a Park

Parks in the summer time are often full of women — women who are relaxed and staying in one place. Use this to your advantage. Although it may seem cliché, having a dog with you can create additional opportunities.

Meeting Women at Dinners & Eateries

While not always an ideal location, you can certainly open sets of women at casual eateries. Specifically, dinners and burger/pizza joint can present social, and easily sargable, locations at the end of the night as the bar scene is coming to a close.

Meeting Women at the Gym

The gym can be a bit tricky. While it’s often a great location to find good looking women, many of them are self-conscious when working out, or simply want to be left alone. You may have to pay closer attention to womens’ body language at the gym, but regardless, it’s still a place that you should consider for sarging.

Meeting Women on the Subway

For anyone living in a major city, the subway can be a common means of transportation. Again, it’s not always an idea location, but an be a location full of static women. If you ride on a daily basis you should have plenty of opportunities. Opinion openers related to current events can serve as an easy means to open sets.

Sources

• Where To Pick Up Women - Great Places To Meet More Women, Alex Coulson

Cat string theory is one of the most fundamental concepts involved in attracting women. It’s based upon a simple and predictable behavior, and should always (always!) be in the back of your mind — specifically when you are out sarging.

The theory goes like this… If you place a thread of yarn in front of a cat, and just let it sit there, the cat may take a few swipes at it, but will quickly lose interest. However, if you were to take that thread and instead dangle it in front of the cat, just out of reach, that same cat will chase it endless around the room. This same principle applies to humans, in various aspects, but specifically in respect to women chasing men. Below is a great video where Mystery and Matador touch on this subject (first 3 minutes or so). Don’t mind the lisps…

So the moral is that you can be a grade A guy, but if you immediately make yourself available to a woman, it’s likely that she’ll quickly lose interest. Women want to be challenged. By keeping yourself slightly (but not too far) out of reach your value will go up, her attraction to you will build — and like the cat with the yarn, she will chase you.

Additional Information on Cat String Theory

• Cat String Theory @ Attractology
• Cat String Theory @ Art of Seduction

Much of your success as a pick up artist will rest upon the confidence that you have in yourself. Not just confidence in your pick up skills, but confidence in the person you are and the life that you lead. This is often referred to as inner game. Your interaction skills and material will only get you so far. Granted, in many cases that may be far enough to reach the goal that you’re working towards: number closing, kiss closing, bringing a girl (or girls) home. But ultimately, your true character and personality is going to come out — and it should! Don’t base your game around pretending to be something that you’re not. Rather, make yourself into the interesting and quality person that you want to be.

I’ve included some suggestions below for improving your lifestyle and developing healthy and interesting hobbies. These are in no particular order. Some of them are applicable to just about everyone, others are simply suggestions based on our interests here at Pick Up and Attraction.com. Feel free to add your own via the comments form at the bottom of the post.

Eat Healthy / Learn To Cook

Eating healthy is really a no-brainer. This is something everyone should strive for. Apart from the obvious health benefits, establishing a good diet will improve your physique and give your more energy — both of which will help your game. Additionally, learning to cook is something I promote. This gives you greater control over your diet, generally helps you save money, and can work as a great DHV.

Stay In Shape

This is another straightforward suggestion. The health benefits alone should motivate you to work out, but beyond that, the confidence that comes from seeing your body toned up is amazing. Staying in shape does not imply going to the gym; this can be anything you want it to be. Mix it up with some running, biking, kayaking or rock climbing. Different activities will not only keep you refreshed, but will give you more to talk about.

Martial Arts

This could technically be included in the entry above, but I feel like this has a lot to offer outside of simply the fitness aspect. The benefits of involving yourself in martial arts are almost endless. There are the obvious physical benefits like self-defense skills, speed, strength, flexibility and conditioning. Mentally, martial arts is a great way to relieve stress, build confidence, and help to focus. Lastly, as you might expect, this can be both a large DHV and a great conversation thread — you’ll be surprised how many girls have interest, or experience, with this topic. Kickboxing at the gym is a good start. Specific forms like Karate, Muay Thai, Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, Judo, and so on often have more to offer.

Keep Up With Current Events

Keep on eye on the news, flip through the morning paper, know what’s going on in the world! I know, it can be depressing sometimes… but being in tune with world events is a quality that everyone can respect. Not only will you (potentially) be a more productive member of society, but you’ll be more prepared for conversions about current events.

Buy Some Nice Threads

We’ll get deeper into this topic in the future as it relates specifically to picking up women, and cover some concepts like peacocking. But in general, despite seeming superficial, new and stylish clothing can quickly boost your confidence. You don’t need to replace your wardrobe, but don’t be afraid to pick up a new pair of jeans, a few button downs, and some graphical tees. For us, the key is finding things that are interesting and stylish, but not too crazy *and* making sure the clothing fits properly — this is much harder than you might think. Don’t be afraid to bring a girl with you, and/or get opinions from female shoppers or workers.

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